Wedding Gift: Clutter or Not? Part 2
Here’s Part 1 if you didn’t read it on wedding gift clutter.
A Wedding gift can easily become clutter, so here are some ways to prevent that from happening:
What goes around comes around
I know this will get me in trouble with Miss Manners but I am a fan of regifting. And I actually did get in trouble here in the south when I talked about regifting in a presentation I did at a country club. One woman was not amused.
We received a religious gift from a friend who knows we are not religious. We regifted to my BIL and his wife who are very religious and appreciated the gift. It is all good in my book. Why would I want to keep something around gathering dust when it brings someone else joy? If you struggle with letting go of a wedding gift, ask yourself this question. Clearing clutter allows you to bring in more of what you desire.
I cannot imagine a wedding gift that would be really awful, but if you think it is and don’t want to regift, give to charity. There are so many in need.
If you are concerned about the money, you can always give the gift of time: to housesit, pet sit, baby sit. Or the gift of sweat: helping someone plant a garden or paint a room. I read about a nightmare bride, posted on reddit I believed, who called out someone who only gave a $50 gift. She told her friend she should have given something worth $200 cause that tis what I cost per couple or person. Tacky. You don’t want to be friends with someone.
Have an honest conversation saying that money is tight and you would love to give them a gift of time. Most normal people, appreciate this. The ones that don’t, maybe you need to rethink your friendship and /or going to the wedding.
Most likely the happy couple will have registered in one place or a few. I would really suggest this is the best place to begin. People register for items that they choose. When you go off the range, you might pick something that they don’t want, need or even like. Now, I have read about revenge wedding gifting, but hopefully that isn’t the case for anyone listening.
In this day and age, a lot of times you can shop online and have gifts wrapped and sent. That is especially nice if you are traveling for a wedding.
And if you are thinking of getting a gift that you think no one else will, there is a good chance they will have gotten another one. The good news for me is that my husband will never forget our wedding date as it is engraved on several items in our home.
For the happy couple!
Alternatives to wedding gifts. You can ask for money for a honeymoon or for a big-ticket item like a home or landscaping. I know Ms. Manners is cringing somewhere. I am not a fan of this personally, but to each his own.
Maybe someone could rent a cool car for you to leave your wedding from. You could ask for an experience such as a hot air balloon ride to enjoy together or a cooking class. Maybe art is your thing and you would love a painting of your pooch or drawing of your cat. Personalized stationery would also be great for all the thank you notes they will be writing!
If you are good to go, why not consider giving back? You could give to your favorite charity. Check out https://home.justgiving.com
Attempt to stop the clutter before it starts and register for what you really desire.
- The Honey Fund & The Honeymoon Honeymoon registries
- Hatch My House – House (as in building or buying one) registry
- com & zola.com, My registry – Cross-company registries that has a huge range of options
- Card Avenue – Specializes in gift cards
- Seven Hopes United – specializes in marketing stylish, handmade, fair trade and eco-friendly gifts from around the globe. Your purchase ensures our artisans are paid a living wage for their work, working conditions are safe, and no children are exploited.”
Knack Registry – You can register for items, experiences and even services
What would you consider a different wedding gift?
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