Life Shifts: How Can I Deal with Change?
Life Shifts: Does it Scare You?
If it does, you aren’t alone. I use to be deathly afraid of change and life shifts. Life is never static, so learning to deal with how to go with the flow and change is important. It can be done! Learn how to create a game plan to deal with change.
Take actions from today’s podcast for dealing with life shifts:
- Figure out what scares you about change and life shifts.
- Dig deeper. Is it related to a past event or anxiety about the future? Neither you can control. Figure out how to be present to take back your power.
- Write down practices from today that will help you when dealing with change and life shifts.
- Incorporate one good habit that will serve you well before, during and after life shifts such as exercising.
- Reach out to supportive friends or a professional to help you deal with change and life shifts.
Certified life coach, author & award-winning professional life organizer Julie Coraccio shares steps and tips to support you in creating the life you choose, deserve and desire through decluttering your life, mindfulness and how to organize your life.
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TRANSCRIPT LIFE CHANGE
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Today on clearing the clutter inside and out, we’re talking about change. Does the thought of change put you into a sweat? Would you rather get a root canal than interrupt your life with something new? ready to face a change head on? Learn how to better roll with change as we continue this month focusing on renewal.
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Today’s episode was mainly inspired by me and my fear of change. I used to dread change to change. Sorry guys, I know I can’t sing but you got to have some fun. I used to dread change. I couldn’t deal with it any level you would have to drag me kicking and screaming I didn’t have cats until I met Tony and met first met Joey in November 2012. And now we have three cats. I get not wanting to change a lot better. I have to crack up because I was a cat for most of my life and didn’t know cuz I was allergic to them and didn’t hang out with them. I’m not completely 100% groovy with change, but I had to tell you I can deal with it. It doesn’t stress me out like It used to I can roll with it a lot better, I can go with the flow a lot better. And I know a lot of you out there listening and watching for like I was, you’re stressed out by change. So let’s learn some tips to better deal change. Why don’t we like change? There are a variety of reason, but it’s mainly fear. Remember, fear is false evidence appearing real. I’ll do something around fear. I’ll do an episode and we’ll go a little more deeply into that. Maybe you are afraid of fear of success or failure. Maybe you are afraid of being rejected or criticized. We all want to be loved. We all want to be understood. That’s a reasonable thing to be afraid of. Or maybe you’re afraid of the unknown and what you cannot control. This is an opportunity for you to dig deeper. I know I said a lot, but that’s The good stuff is when we get deep, we can clear it and move it and release it. And finally move forward. We don’t dig deep. If we only do the surface stuff, then if any change happens, it’s likely to go back to the way things are. When you can figure out why you are resisting or afraid of change, you’re better equipped to deal with what is going on. It’s knowledge. It can only support you. You may discover it’s an outdated belief you’re holding on to or someone else’s fears or opinions. What a great opportunity to clear some inner clutter. I asked myself a lot whose voices that because you know what I’ve discovered, sometimes it’s not my voice. It’s something someone told me in fourth grade. It’s something coming from a family. It’s something coming from society. I was talking to A friend recently and she was like, dang, I can just feel all these things being thrown at you, that aren’t your beliefs and aren’t your opinions and we might not be aware of it. But we are throwing our judgments our ideals onto people all the time unless we’re aware of it. Examine your fears. Write down your fears when it comes to change. Act like a third party observing them. Your goal here is to be neutral, not to get into judgment, not getting the blame game, become neutral. Write down your plan of action. If your fear were to happen, most likely our fears don’t happen. You know, we can go from zero to 60 crazy fear and no time flat. You are a lot tougher than you think you are. I know a lot of you’re like me, you don’t give yourself enough credit. You don’t look at all you’ve accomplished. Really. You can handle a lot So if you write down your fear, after you’ve written down your fears have a counter action, something positive, where the attention goes energy flows. So if you choose to have a positive thought, you will start moving energy in that direction. The moment you catch yourself doing or saying or thinking something negative stop. Ask yourself questions. In the past, when I handled change really well, what did I do? How did I handle it? What actions did I take that really worked for me? And what personal attributes did I use to turn something positive? I do something called take it down. I know really original title, but you know, what can I say that’s what I call it. If I’m experiencing a change, I’ll write down my biggest fear. Usually when I put it down, I laugh Because I’m like, Oh my gosh, you’re in that job that is so not going to happen. And so I’ll put the huge fear here and then I’ll take it down a step.
Okay, well, if the Earth’s not gonna explode tomorrow, then what’s the next worst thing that could happen? Well, the United States explodes. Well, that’s probably not gonna happen. Well, North Carolina explodes. Well, that’s not gonna have all Raleigh Oh, explode? Well, that’s not gonna happen. You get the idea. So I take it down. And I take it down, and I take it down. And by the time that’s process is done, and it’s still a legitimate fear that I might have, but one that’s realistic, that, yes, you know what this could happen. But when it gets to that level, I usually discover it’s something I can handle, and most likely I’ve handled it in the past.
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Be aware of what you can control and what you can’t. You can control your thoughts, feelings, your actions and how you react. How can you better deal with change? Here are some tips. One, acknowledge and accept the change. Recognize that it’s happening. Don’t bury your head in the sand. I’ve worked with clients before who just don’t want to face the problem. They ignore it. They don’t want to acknowledge it. They don’t want to take action and that makes it worse. Be brave And look at it, understand what is and isn’t in your control. And when you’re aware of that, and what the change is, what actions can you take, seek support. Feel your feelings, especially what you cannot control. Then if you need to let it out to someone you trust, and then let it go. That’s the key. Don’t spend all your time moaning and groaning and complaining. I believe sometimes you just have to tell someone, one one person one thing, let it go get it out there. So you don’t have to hold it in. You don’t need to share it on social media. You don’t need to tell 10,000 people, you really need to be aware of who you’re telling. And then it’s someone that’s going to be a good mirror back to you. I’ve always found it helpful to vent or bonk ideas off of someone’s head and the two people that I trust the most Right, my husband, and my dear friend, Kati, and I’m so grateful for their support. If you need it, seek it and find support. How about embracing the change? Learn to be open and flexible. How can you reframe What’s going on? What can you learn? What opportunities can you find? What positives Can you find from the change? For example, say you need to move. I’ve moved across country twice. It is a big deal, and very stressful and can be crazy. So if you’re moving, and you’re kind of really fearful, get excited about meeting new people. Instead of wallowing about missing your friends. Get excited. Adopt an attitude of anticipation and excitement. Start to get Feel Wow, what can really happen with this change? What are the good things that can go on focus on that? At the same time, change can be stressful. So reduce your stress and anxiety, exercise. Meditate. Find a mindfulness practice if you don’t already do something. Do kickboxing Gow that frustration and fear get physical get moving? Do relaxation techniques. Eat healthy? Try and keep as much of your routine as possible to reduce your stress. Now this one won’t surprise you take action. What goals can you set? How can you focus on the challenge at hand? Can you get advice from someone who’s done a similar change? How can you be proactive to support yourself? To get through the change, perhaps you can schedule a trainer or nutritionist to keep you on track. If you have a big change coming up that you know is happening. When you are reactive, you wait until something has happened. Rather than being proactive and choosing to do something, but I say all the time, you always have a choice and doing nothing is a choice. Take the time to write down all the positives that have come from this change. Look for the golden nugget. I did an entire podcast on looking for the golden nugget. try and do this daily. There is always something positive. If you’re willing to look unplugged. Now might be a good time to take a break. You don’t want to get sucked into feeling like your life stinks. Now, when everyone’s posting a bunch of positive stuff, and remember I think a lot of times People are posting isn’t that real. Use the time that you wouldn’t be surfing Facebook, or liking things on Instagram to re meditate or tack on action item.
And finally, be kind yourself. It can be a stressful time, especially if you’re a control freak. You don’t have to do it all and you don’t have to be perfect. Be nice to yourself if you fall off the wagon, we learn from our mistakes. Now’s the time to inject some fun and laughter into your life. take actions from today’s podcast. Figure out what scares you about change. Dig deeper. Is it related to a past event or anxiety about the future? Neither of those you can control figure out how to be present to take back your Our write down practices from today that will help you when dealing with change. Incorporate one good habit that will serve you well before, during and after change, such as exercising. Reach out to supportive friends or a professional to help you deal with the change. In our next month’s bonus episode on awareness, we’re talking about doing what needs to be done. Go out, clear the clutter to create the life you choose, deserve and desire. Are you ready to live a more joyful and fulfilling life? Sign up for our newsletter at reawaken your brilliance calm and receive a free copy of 10 steps to clearing the clutter inside and out? If you enjoyed today’s episode we’d love it if you would rate and review the show because it really helps us in the search ranking. See you next Tuesday at one o’clock. Remember, when you clear your clutter, you can create the life you desire.
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