At work, gossip has been found to:
- Decrease productivity as it wastes time
- Compromises professional standards.
- Causes pain, resentment, and distrust.
- Management spends enormous energy finding out “who said what.”
- Workers lose confidence in management if it’s allowed to continue.
If you regularly gossip: you can cause harm to others, especially if something is particularly negative and especially if it is untrue. You are a partner in spreading lies. People will trust you less. Think in your own life. Is there someone you know who gossips a lot?
For me, the worse thing about gossip is if it breaks a confidence. Someone confided in you and you broke that bond. Probably most of us have had that happen to us. It’s not fun.
Spreading Rumors: How to stop
Like many things, gossiping is a habit and can be unlearned. Begin to take a diet from gossip.
First, take some time to reflect on why. Why do you listen or contribute to gossip? Do you lack self-esteem and do it to feel better about yourself? Do you feel you are missing something, like friendship, and do it as a way to connect with others?
After spending some time reflecting, pick an area where you would like to stop gossiping. If you have one, great. If not, pick where you seem to do it the most.
If you are someone who likes to read about celebrities:
Stop your subscription to People magazine.
Put a moratorium on reading online gossip. My husband works a swing shift, so I often read until he comes home because I don’t work very well in the evening. I used to read all these horrible sights. I was going to a women’s retreat in March of last year and thought this was the time to break the habit. We were encouraged to not use the computer and it was a perfect time. I remember being at the doctor’s office and couldn’t miss a people mag saying Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner were getting a divorce. I remarked to the receptionist that I didn’t know. She looked at me like I had two heads (another indication of how prevalent it is in our society.
More Ways to Curtail Spreading Rumors
Tell your buddy you gossip with that you are on a moratorium on gossip.
Ask yourself if there is a healthier way to bond with people.
Instead of isolating someone through gossip, how could you support him or her in making positive changes?
Take a stand and refuse to gossip at work.
Have a rubber band on your wrist and snap it when you find yourself gossiping.
Takeaways from all three blog posts:
- gossip accounts for 55% of men’s conversation time and 67% of women’s. Men are much more interested in who’s up and who’s down. Women gossip more about who’s in and who has merit.
- You may gossip because of: jealously; to manipulate or control a person or a situation; to feel powerful; to feel better about yourself; or have as a focal point for frustration.
- Take time to figure out why you gossip (to connect, because of low self-esteem, etc.). Next, pick an area to stop gossiping and take steps (cancelling the people subscription; stop reading online gossip columns; refusing to spread gossip at work) to declutter your life from gossiping.
Do you know why you gossip? What’s your plan to remove the scuttlebutt from your life? What other positive activities can you engage in instead of spreading rumors?
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