Don’t forget to check out the first part of our blog. We’ll finish up with part 3 on August, 3rd

Scuttlebutt: With friends like this…

Do you gossip about friends? Have you broken a confidence? Do you tend to gossip about the same person? What you seem as harmless, could actually be harmful.


I had a neighbor recently tell me two homes in our neighborhood were foreclosed on. I had zero judgment about this but was concerned for my family’s well being. We will be selling our house and foreclosures could negatively affect our price. Instead of taking this gossip as truth, I went to an open house and asked the realtor. I was very straightforward and said this is what I heard from a neighbor. I was happy to find out neither home went into foreclosure?


What if that scuttlebutt went around the neighborhood—it might have, and get back to someone’s employer? Raleigh is a big town but is like a small city at times. Someone’s reputation could have been damaged on false information. Pause to think about that. Could you have ever harmed someone by gossiping? Do you gossip about your friends or neighbors?

Why do we engage in scuttlebutt?

According to an article in 2014 from Psychology Today,  anthropologists believe that gossip has been a way for us to bond with others—and sometimes a tool to isolate those who aren’t supporting the group.


You may gossip because you are jealous. Or you may gossip to manipulate or control a person or a situation. We may also gossip because we see knowledge as power.


I believe many times we gossip to feel better about ourselves and to have a focal point for our frustration. At least, that is what I found for myself.I would think I am not as bad as those crazy housewives.

Putting someone else down doesn’t raise me up. In fact, in lowers my vibration. Ever since I quit reading gossip I feel a lot better.


When we focus on the faults of others, how can we expect others not to do the same to us? Whatever you put out in the world comes back to you in some way, shape or form. When we take delight in the mean things about others, couldn’t our time be better spent working on ourselves? Improving our own lives or supporting others?


I have seen people argue in favor of gossip, but stick with my original position that gossip is spiritual clutter and it is a good thing to release it.

Problems scuttlebutt can cause

Gossip isn’t innocent fun. It can cause problems. I’ll talk more in the final part of this blog next week.


Do you gossip? How often and with whom? Has gossip every cost you anything?


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