Read the first part of this blog to start the process of feeling your feelings from July 26th.
Releasing Emotional Clutter
First, give yourself permission to feel. You are allowed to feel whatever you need to. Try not to judge an emotion as good or bad. For example, anger can serve as a great catalyst for change. Women would have never had the right to vote if Susan B and all her friends weren’t really angry.
It’s important to remember that unpleasant feelings are a part of life. We can’t avoid them by resisting them. “What you resist, persists,” said Carl Jung. If we accept our feelings it allows us to deal with them more successfully and once we do that we can release them. What I mean is sitting with your sadness or anger or guilt or shame and really feeling it. Know that it won’t last forever.
When I ended a relationship I cried for about 20 minutes. Howling, sounding inhuman. When I finished, I knew that my grief was over. That isn’t to say that a tinge would pop up every now and then, but when I fully felt my heartache I was able to release it. Prior to clearing the clutter inside and out, I interviewed a lot of people on my internet TV show reawaken your brilliance, all of them said that it was harder to suppress feelings than it was to release them. I also share this from experience.
When you feel your feelings, this allows you to not act on your pain, such as hitting someone or abusing yourself. Once released you can channel into something healthy such as writing or dancing.
Also, When we don’t feel anger or guilt, people can keep us oppressed and in their power. No matter where you stand politically, in America, people are angry. People are becoming angry enough to demand change.
Now the fun part.
The first thing I do is lay down quietly and check-in with my body. I try and ask questions to see if anything needs to express. Sometimes I get a response, sometimes I don’t. If I don’t I simply start to breathe and go from there.
I like breath work to feel my feelings. I have a variety of different breaths that I use. I do breath and movement such as shaking my body while making sounds. I like to do this in our bed when no one else is around so I can be as loud as I need to be. If that isn’t an option for you, you can scream into a pillow. Emotions are energy and want to move, so do what you can to allow them to do that.
I also like to get physical. I have a blocker that someone holds and I wear gloves that I punch. I had a friend Stinky I used to do this with. He knew exactly what to say to really get me angry. The good news is I was exhausted when I was done fighting. Maybe for you, it is a spinning class that allows you to feel your anger and burn a lot of calories.
With dancing, you can make sounds and move as well. Journaling also might be an option as well as simply screaming at the top of your lungs.
There are many different ways that you can become in touch with your feelings. Set aside some time to test out a few things. The more you do this, the easier it becomes. I have found with regular practice, I am able to let go of unpleasant feelings more quickly as well as I don’t get throw off as easily.
Releasing Emotional Clutter: Post Feeling
This can be really intense. Plan a fun or relaxing activity afterward. Maybe order take-out or have already made your next meal. I am a fan of a good bubble bath. Have a plan in place for when you have completed this exercise.
I encourage you if you are unable to do something the first time you try this, not to give up. Keep doing an exercise until you are able to release feelings.
We can avoid feelings for good reasons. For example, children who have been abused are usually very good at this. If you have avoided your feelings, beginning to feel may be very difficult for you. You could bring up some unburied trauma. Please please please take good care of yourself. Seek professional help, a trusted mentor or good friend to support you during this process.
Have a list of people you can talk to afterward or a professional who would work with you on these issues. It is important to have a safe and loving support system in place in case anything does come up.
Takeaways from both blog posts on feeling your feelings and Releasing Emotional Clutter:
- Research has shown that suppressing or avoiding your emotions, in fact, can make them stronger.
- While it isn’t fun to feel unpleasant feelings, they actually help us through better boundaries, alerting us if something is wrong or there is danger and if we are doing what we need to be doing.
- Feelings can bring up strong emotions and even buried trauma. Seek professional help, a trusted mentor or good friend to support you during this process.
How can you feel your feelings? What can you do after you’ve spent some time releasing feelings?
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