Are You Living Life Fully?
Are you embracing each and every day no matter what? Have you embraced death so you can fully live your life? Do you find yourself focusing more on what’s wrong and what you don’t have or what’s right and what you do have? Learn how to live life fully.
- Accept that death is inevitable
- Recognize how you’re already embracing life
- Contemplate what living life fully means to you
- Create a list of ways you can live your life completely
- Implement changes and keep building on that
To learn how Julie can support you in living your best life.
Certified life coach, author & award-winning professional life organizer Julie Coraccio shares steps and tips to support you in creating the life you choose, deserve and desire through decluttering your life, end of life planning, mindfulness and how to organize your life.
About Clear Your Clutter Inside & Out
Clutter is stuck stagnant energy and prevents you from creating the life you choose, desire and deserve. We discuss clutter in all its forms: energetic, spiritual, emotional, mental & physical, relationships, health, finances and more. We share tips and take action steps for clutter free living and how to organize your life and death with end of life planning. We’re thinking outside the box on areas where people might not realize where clutter is blocking them. When we remove clutter from our lives we can discover our passions, lead the extraordinary lives we are all meant to live and share our gifts with the world.
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TRANSCRIPT LIVING LIFE FULLY
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Today on clear your clutter inside and out, we’re talking about the best day ever. Are you embracing each and every day? No matter what. Have you embraced death so you can fully live your life? Do you find yourself focusing more on what’s wrong and what you don’t have? Or what’s right and what you do have? Learn how to live life fully as we continue our month focusing on going with grace. Do you control your clutter? Or does your clutter control you? unclear your clutter inside and out will teach you awareness as well as action steps to create change in your life. Come on. Let’s get started. As I’ve talked in other episodes, I have been many sizing my business to go into certain direction as I turned 50 this year, I can’t continue to do really heavy duty physical decluttering of garages and attics and basements and all that stuff. And so when my father was doing all this planning, and I had this kind of aha moment like this makes sense. And I looked at Why am I afraid of death, even though I have these spiritual beliefs, and I made this connection, that when we accept death, I mean, I’m not the only one and you can read about it, but only accept that because usually death is our greatest fear, then we can truly embrace our life and live it fully. And so the life coaching with me, that’s kind of how I connected it to end of life planning. Like, let’s make sure you’re running on all cylinders. You’re living life, you’re embracing it and make sure at the same time you’re prepared for death with end of life planning, and maybe that’s where we start and work our way back. That’s kind of the reasoning and the inspiration behind this whole month, but specifically this episode. Today’s episode is also inspired by my nephew max. And civil Rhodes. I encourage you if you haven’t listened to the interview with civil, she is lived an amazing life. I still feel presence at times and she grew up her father was a sharecropper, she stirred shared stories, I can’t even imagine being that poor, but she embraced life like no one I’ve ever met. And Max is the same way I can’t tell you, especially when he’s little he’d wake up, this is the best day ever. And that’s what inspired the title. I think those of us who are in industrialized or Western cultures, this might be more of a challenge to embrace stuff. And so I encourage you, again, just take that one little step and keep moving forward. I really have seen an expansion and a movement within This, for instance, I watched an earlier show on another episode to sorry if I repeat myself. And some things I think are really good. But there is this documentary on HBO six alternative ways to die, something like that. If you Google that you’ll find it was really cool. Like Tony will probably choose a space option and I like the green option. And because I don’t want to leave, I don’t want to be a mom. I’ve know that I’ve made these decisions. And so as I get more comfortable with that, it has helped me really embrace life as I record this. Finally, just take me months I’ve spent this entire year trying to get books on Amazon and a couple of cases it was literally one space. I’m not exaggerating, that was preventing the book from being uploaded. Anyway, hopefully we’re almost there. The final proof get that there but I realized I have been afraid a little bit like oh my gosh, Julie, you’re really putting yourself out there. Yeah, you know your podcast is fairly big, but if people aren’t looking for it, again, Amazon just my choice, I wouldn’t choose your own Amazon. But really to get your views out there, get your books out there be seen by a larger audience. It’s something you have to do. But I realized I’ve been hesitating. So in conjunction with that, I’ve been like, okay, let’s write a draft of the obituary. Let’s do that. Do a little more planning for end of life so that I can embrace this fear. What do I mean by live your best life? Honestly, that’s up to your interpretation, as far as I’m concerned. Some of the things you might want to think about or ponder Are you living up to your potential? When I was getting married, someone said, Don’t marry potential didn’t marry potential Luckily, but I thought that was really good advice.
Are you using the term someday? I’m gonna make Make my health a priority. Someday, I’m going to publish that book someday I’m going to get my finances or someday professional organizers talk about this a lot. Because someday, usually doesn’t come, right because we put it out there in the future. We don’t have to worry about it. We have to take any action. So I’d encourage you begin to live your best life today. I did an episode I think two or three years ago, just my little, I was like, Oh, let me just think of 10 pieces of advice 10 items of wisdom that I believe in and that would like to pass along. So I believe I have not repeated that. I was very careful about that. But I thought you know what, I want to come up with 10 points today. 10 suggestions for you to live your life fully. And again, take what works for you. That doesn’t resonate with you put it in the garbage pile. But maybe it might resonate with you five down you years down the road. I’m a huge firm believer in planting seeds that will blossom later. So the first one is self love. If you love yourself, you’re going to take care of yourself. And when you love yourself, you accept all parts of you. And you can really put yourself out there. Because you know if you’re cool with yourself, other people criticize you say, Oh my gosh, that was the dumbest, but I’d ever really Okay, thanks for your opinion next. So how well are you loving yourself to get angry when you make a mistake? Or you’re like yeah, I learned something. So it’s part of life. Are you able to go with the flow mostly? How well do you love yourself? And this I think, again, kind of boils down with the feeling good enough, worthy enough and love when you feel those three things no matter what you’re in really good shape. Number two The clutter your life and what I’m going to use it for in this way because obviously I’ve talked about decluttering Your life is boiling down what’s most important in all areas. Again, it’s not just the physical stuff. You’re listening this podcast or you’re watching on YouTube. So you’re doing this, you’re taking steps to declutter your life, to apply it to all areas. If it is, finding a wardrobe that you look and feel great in to live life fully do that. It is being organized. So that allows you to spend time on what you’re passionate about, or building relationships with people you love. Let the focus be on that. When you have let go the junk that doesn’t matter. And again, as I age, I find myself doing this more often and more easily. I think there’s some things you just have to To live life to be able to understand and do. But when I boil it down to what’s important, then I can live my life fully because the majority of my focus is on what’s important to me and how can I not get excited? When I’m focusing on what matters most. Finding passion about something. You could be an accountant. And you do that as your job or your passion is painting. My mother was a realtor for a really long time. And then when she was about 50, she discovered she’s a really good artist. She’s now retired and can devote a lot more time to her painting. But she found that interest while she was still being a realtor, and was able to it helped her figure out what’s important. So important as I paint all this craziness from the crazy people in her crazy transaction, real estate don’t matter. Being able to do my art does. Maybe you find your passion through your volunteers.
I’ve recently started writing grants we ended up we officially adopted a Nina meanie and a gusta. Gus, I just with everything we just I couldn’t let them go if I was fostering for a short time. And there are some challenges they have. And truthfully, I would always worry about them being returned and I couldn’t do it and they can’t be separated. And sometimes as kittens or the night are now 17 weeks old, they might try to separate them. And the reality was, I just I couldn’t do that. And so anyway, we have adopted the gospel, we’re really thrilled. Hello, although I guess he was being a little rambunctious, and I had to kick her out of the office and kick her out and put her out office. But anyway, I have found writing grants for them for the organization is a way that I can share some of my passions and my skills. Or maybe how you’re raising your children is what you’re passionate about. You want to bring in good Girls and boys into the world. You want to bring children that have certain values and you focus your effort that way. I encourage you to define your life. What’s your passion? And how do you want to express that? Again, I think it’s so important. Although I talked about a part of the oneness, and we are one, we are also these individual beings. Do life on your terms. Courage, I mean, talk about being courageous. That’s when you’re stepping out of your comfort zone, and you’re doing something that’s about living life fully, because when you shrink back from life, you’re not embracing it. And this doesn’t have to be a big action. I’m not going to bungee jump. My crazy younger brother did. And he embraced and has fun and that’s he can do that. I can’t. I have no interest. I’m hoping to maybe skydive. I had a friend that did it. This You’re not there yet, maybe one way you can be courageous is to tell someone that you love them. That takes courage, right? So many of us have these masks on aren’t being authentic, and say, This is how I feel about you. But it’s really freeing when you do that. I used to be deathly afraid of public speaking, I now get paid to speak. I really couldn’t have imagined I could not stand up for 30 seconds. But I went to these events, I said, I’ve got to do this. And it helped my courage grow. Maybe you smile, a stranger that might be courage for you. Whatever it is for you. Be courageous. And remember, when you’re courageous, or you share your gifts with the world, you allow other people the opportunity to do the same because you serve as an example. And you say, Wow, Oh, she did this. I think maybe I can do it. Maybe I’m going to try to do something courageous today and I’ll share a smile with a stranger. And that energy grows. Number five adopted change. Change is constant. I used to not be able to handle change. I’m not I was must have been a cat and several past lives and it just was very struggle. Like oh my gosh, it was like this huge thing happening. Now I’m a lot better at it. Life is easier when I’m flow. Okay, this happened, we’re going to change. You know, downsizing was a big change moving even though it was 40 minutes. It’s like night and day, that was a big change. I did what I had control over, I’m like, okay, I can set up the utilities. And I had no control over for example, who my neighbors would be something like that. When you’re like, Okay, it’s change and I’m gonna see all the positive and see the good. That’s what I’m gonna focus on. It’s a lot of stress right now, but it will be worth it in the long run. I just it was easy. I find it easier to adopt to change. Now, again, it’s so much resistance. And if you’re resistant to something, a couple things to think about, is it truly not the right move for you? And again, are you listening from your solar ego? That’s where we get tripped up. So maybe it’s something like warning, Will Rogers Danger, danger. Or, perhaps you need to heal something. Perhaps this would be something great for you. But something similar happened in the past and you are making all these assumptions about something. So learning how to adapt to change allows you to embrace life fully. When you prepare for death, you can live your life fully. Where’s all that information to your online assets? And what people know how to find it. What do you want people to remember about you? If you were to die suddenly, who would take care your pets.
Julie Coraccio can support you in end of life planning and organization. Visit reawaken your brilliance calm to learn more personal growth, mindfulness. This is number six, whatever that term means to you, but just be committed to always growing, never staying stagnant. I bet we all know someone, I think is someone that I went to college with and saw that there are 25th reunion she had not changed one iota. And I don’t know that was that’s not a compliment. And sometimes they go you know, you’re still down to earth person that’s really great. This person was still really close minded, very judgmental, and it was all about her her close knit circle of people and everyone else forget it didn’t matter and it really was heartbreaking to see That personal growth hadn’t taken place. And again, I don’t know anyone’s heart and mind. I want to say that. But just from observation, if she had made any great strides in personal growth, it wasn’t showing. You know, your growth doesn’t show if you’re meditating, or eating 100% organic. It shows when the neighbor really angers you or someone hurts your feelings with how you respond. That’s going to be a good indicator. If you grow in the past things. There’s trash in the yard, am I upset about it? Or am I just going to pick it up and not worry about it. So be aware when life is happening, how you’re responding, that’s where you’re going to know where your growth is. I don’t want to remain the same person. I don’t want to be the same Julie 10 years from now, if I was the same Julian 10 years, I’d be really bummed out, the more I have grown The better My life is. Number seven, allow yourself to be vulnerable. I always believe growing up that being vulnerable was a weakness. And I’d like to think now that it’s a strength. As I’ve grown older, I switched my views on that. And I think that that I feel like that’s almost an American thing. Because I’m American. I feel like I can speak to the culture. I don’t how it is in other countries. But being vulnerable has enriched my life. I’ll never forget I Tony and I were dating. And I could feel him pulling back now I’m a huge fan of john Gray’s men are from Mars, women are from Venus, because I think there’s a lot of we speak different languages. I think there’s a lot of truth and I text him I don’t know like, when are we going to see each other again, I don’t think I would have been that for that wasn’t my speed anyway, I could feel I could literally feel him pulling back or hadn’t texted or something. So I’ve talked to my friend Vince, who is like, yeah, you’re being needy, you’re being clingy. And
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I’m like, Oh my gosh, that’s so not my intention. And that was the truth. It wasn’t on the past, I would have been completely being needy,
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but I wasn’t in this instance. So I talked to my friend Lisa, who had a more spiritual perspective. We talked about it and so I just texted him I said, You know what, Tony, I don’t mean to be needy or clingy. I just really enjoy spending time with you. And because that’s what it was. That was the honest to goodness truth. He texted right away. And from that moment on, we’ve never been apart, he’s never pulled away again. And I believe that’s because I allowed myself to be vulnerable. And he can feel because remember, even if we can’t, if it’s over text, you’re gonna feel the energy of something and I believe he could feel it was sincere, and then I was being vulnerable and tell him how I felt. I got burned by that. woman’s group, but I’m committed to making new friends which for me is just on the making friends level and even opening up anything at all makes me feel really vulnerable. But I don’t want to be in a place where I’m not growing where I’m not meeting people. And so it’s worth it to me to be vulnerable. Instead of closing myself off. Brandon brown and I believe you spell her name br e so I hope I’m pronouncing that correctly. But Bran Brown has written a lot on this. I believe she has a whole book just devoted to vulnerability. And I’m sure there are some YouTube videos. She’s a great speaker on this. If you want more information on being vulnerable, definitely check her out. My number eight suggestion to live your life fully is to set goals. Kind of like boring. I can hear me saying that. If you want to Fully if you want to embrace your life, set the milestones so you can tell where you’re improving, you can tell how you’re moving forward. And even if it’s not something tangible, like I want to have 10 books published by the end of the year, or it’s not I want to gain 10 new clients or I want to have five speaking gigs, that’s fine and dandy. You can also have that I want to have less anxiety every day. And you can only determine what that level is. But having the goal or I want to be more connected with my soul, I want to face my anger head on and release it. I want to have a healthy relationship. I want to have better health and then within that, set goals and I did a whole thing and believe last January on how to set SMART goals. You can break it down into manageable steps. But goals are guides their posts, we know I am moving forward, I am doing something if we don’t have goals, then we can just kind of walk through life and maybe not accomplish much or you wake up in 10 years like wow, where did the time go? I thought I’d be doing x by now but it hasn’t happened. So set some goals. Number nine, trust life is working out. Boy probably question this every day in 2018 and probably bit this year. For me, what this means is that it allows me to embrace life because I have to believe everything’s for the higher good for the best good for my good. And even if I struggle, I can learn something and grow from the disappointing moments. Or I can stay bitter, and question everything but when I trust it That just allowed me to say, Okay, this has to be what’s right you have to be on the path that you’re meant to be. And if I do that, then living life fully isn’t about just all the things that we desire. It’s about all life. It’s about the sadness, it’s about the grief, it’s about the anger. It’s about the joy of happiness love, because life is a human being is all of that is not I know no one who has had a perfect life I’ve had no one who has never had any major upset. And so that means the messy the juicy, the gooey, the UI, embracing it all and living it. And when you trust that it’s working out, then you can get messy, you can dive fully in.
And number 10, take care of your health turned 50 this year, and this has been something that’s really amazing. To me, I can’t be the best me or embrace. What I’d like to do embrace people embrace love, embrace life, if I’m in pain, if I’m bedridden, and how I take care of myself now is gonna determine how I am 20 or 30 years from now. Now I’m someone that believes that you can course correct at any point in life. I truly believe that. I’ve seen amazing things where I’ve seen people who have been horribly out of shape transformed at my age. But when you take care of yourself, that’s going to allow you to be the best version of you. And again to embrace life who wants to embrace life if they are sneezing all the time or sick all the time or tired all the time. So consider making your health a priority and having good health and exercising. Even when you want to This guy’s I normally wouldn’t do this, we went and worked out today. And I said, Ah, you know what, I’m not going to just wash my face put on some makeup and I have my exercise shorts on, they can’t see it because I don’t on the podcast, obviously you don’t see any of it on the YouTube video. I’m wearing exercise shorts under this. But that’s because health is a priority. If we have one more episode to shoot for this month, go home and then you’ll get a nice shower after you finish that. That’s because I want to take care of myself. When I’m clear headed, I can give you my clients, my husband, my cats the best version of Julie, or Gigi as I’m known to my nieces and nephew. Again, here it is 10 suggestions that I am offering today. You know, I’m all about gratitude, but I mentioned that a lot. So I wanted to challenge myself and see if I could come up with 10 suggestions that I hadn’t done in a similar podcast or have Gone in depth completely in all these items for pot for an episode. Figure out what your list would look like and what’s important to you. It’ll be different for everyone. But this is one of the fun things about being an adult, right? You can figure out how do I embrace my life fully. Remember, as you build upon one area and clear your inner clutter, your our clutter is going to flow in that direction too. And follow that and other areas improve. You can’t help but as you are working on one area effort to rub off on another. For example, I started my own business and that helped me grow and be more confident in other areas of my life. So all those tiny steps that you take add up they do make a difference. How are you going to embrace life? How are you going to live your life fully? take actions from today’s podcast. Except that death is inevitable. recognize how you’re already embracing life. Contemplate while living life fully means to you. Create a list of ways you will live your life completely. implement changes to embrace life and keep building on that. On our next episode we’re talking about if your numbers called go out, clear your clutter to create the life you choose deserve and desire. When you clear your clutter, you can share your gifts with the world. Sign up for our free newsletter at reawaken your brilliance calm. If you’ve enjoyed clear your clutter inside now, please rate review and share us.
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