Are you someone who flits and floats from one healer or healing modality to the next? Do you get annoyed when something doesn’t change instantly?   Learn how to release and how to stop wishful thinking.

Today’s clutter-free living blog was inspired because I got an email from someone who asked:

“I listen to every organizing, clutter, and hoarding podcast or TV show in search of another magic word or phrase.  And, of course, every book.  I am hoping you have another magical word to help me think better.”


What I wrote back:

“I do not have a magical word that I can recommend.  It has not been my experience that people find an idea or phrase and then the clutter easily disappears.  While it is different for every person, most people need to get to the root of clutter and that takes some time and self-examination.  I wish it were easier, but that hasn’t been my experience personally or professionally.”

Today’s clutter-free living blog was also inspired by a client who went to every healer, and tried every method and she still purchased and purchased and purchased.  At the root, in my opinion, was that she had never grieved the loss of her husband. He died and she was left with small children. Trying to fill that void that emptiness inside. Things aren’t going to do that.

With shows like hoarders, we see 48 minutes of stuff becoming magically transformed. That isn’t the reality.

One word is to change everything instead of actually doing the work. Expecting things to change in an instant.

How do we let go of thinking that one word, event, or encounter is going to change everything?

Organized woman relaxed and drinking coffee

Become aware. How is your life being affected? Too much clutter negative hutting you?

Identify. What exactly are you afraid of? Sometimes we have this nebulous fear that has just grown or isn’t clear. Name it to reclaim it.

Be like the Coraccio cats, curious. Get curious about what thoughts generate your fear, where do you feel the fear, and how do you react to it? Again, be an observer of what is going on.

Become present. The present moment is your point of power to change. I’ve written blogs about this as well as podcast episodes.

Do the work. Yeah, this can be challenging but it needs to be done.

Feel your feelings. Express whatever you need to.

Take action. Don’t sit around waiting for things to magically change. Do something.

Gratitude. When you’re struggling, find something to be thankful for. I bet if you do, you’ll find a lot.

Journal. I created my journal prompt series because you all have the answers within. 

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Letting Go of Wishful Thinking

Get a perspective. We tend to focus too much on the negative, so by looking at all the options, you often realize that you’re making a big deal of nothing. There are so many things that can happen that it’s impossible for you to predict.

Let go of trying to be perfect. It’s never going to happen. We all learn from what we do. It’s no fun anyway! 

Surrender. Surrendering to what is is powerful because as long as we try to change what is, we will never be at peace.

Let go of the story. We all tell ourselves a story about our fear. If I’m afraid I will be awful starting a new business I tell myself a story (in my head) about how I’ll fail horribly, people will tsk tsk, or even worse, no one will ever hire me. What’s your story?

Release Control. Where we don’t have control, we experience fear. But control is an illusion. Give it up baby give it up.   You are a professional baker and you can still mess up a dessert.  Even if you can swim, you can drown.

Find meaning.  I try and believe there’s a higher reason for something. Maybe I need to learn something, have the experience, clear some karma or learn to trust the bigger picture.

What are you doing wishful thinking about? Why do you think you do wishful thinking? What one step can you take to release wishful thinking?


Take Action from Today’s blog on how to declutter your life.

  • Where in your life do you do some wishful thinking and avoid an issue?
  • What is the root cause of the issue? Can you release the story behind it?
  • Begin with one action step to move forward.

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