Do you still yearn for an old romantic relationship even though you know it is unhealthy?  Are you angry at something your high school coach did years ago even though he is now deceased? Did your former best friend steal your idea for a business and you haven’t been able to let it go?

The second part of this blog will be published on December 13th.


I was going to talk about getting closure on energetic clutter for this month’s bonus, but the more I thought about it I wanted to talk about relationship clutter because I have know a lot of people working on clearing relationship clutter.

I was raped when I lived in LA. At the time I had a therapist and so I processed the raped on a physical and mental level.

Letting Go


However, I wasn’t able to let it go for a long time and needed to  process it other ways for years. Emotionally, spiritually and energetically. I used to not be able to say that I was raped without either crying or feeling rage.  It’s one of the ways I know I have healed from it and gotten closure.

The more work I do the more I am not only fascinated with but believe that we need to clear and clean on an energetic level.  After healing and processing, I needed to get closure.  This was a more intense process for me because of what happened. So when I say it may take time to get closure I really mean it. 

Someone else might not need closure, even with something as intense as rape. If you are still angry, crying, frustrated, jealous over a relationship use that as a guidepost to consider getting closure.

How to Get Closure From a Relationship?


What relationship clutter would you like to get closure on? This usually comes pretty quickly for most people. If you are unsure, is there anyone you are holding a grudge against?  When you hear a persons name or see them, do you get upset or angry?  Is there someone who wronged you that has passed that you feel won’t allow you closure? Ask your friends if there is someone you complain about a lot or wrinkle up your nose when you hear their name. The more conscious you are in any area of your life, the easier it becomes to be more conscious in other parts of your life. I know I have said this before: most of us are on autopilot.  You can’t change your life if you aren’t aware.

I had a friend who was angry with someone that had died.  She had to figure out a way to get closure. It was a long process for him, but eventually he was able to. Just because someone has passed, doesn’t mean that people can release grudges.  Even if someone isn’t here in physical form, you can still get closure. It might take some more work and maybe some creativity, but it can be done.

What relationships do you need closure on in your life? Who do you need to release? What steps can you take if you need to make changes to a relationship?

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