Do you have souvenirs and mementos from an ex relationship from years ago? Is your house filled with antique furniture you hate that was given to you by your family? Have you held onto something from someone you are no longer speak to?
Today on the Clear Your Clutter Inside & Out blog, I’m talking about getting closure to clear your physical stuff. The second part of the blog is on November 15th.
I know it can be busy with the holidays, but let’s take time to clear clutter to start 2022 with a clean body, mind, spirit, home, etc. Let’s clear some physical closure today. I’m going to encourage you to read the whole blog series on getting closure. I tried to make different points in each episode because sometimes we hear things in a different way.
When I was in my 20s I saw a therapist. She remarked to me that on a certain issue I continued to pick at it, and, like an open wound, it would never heal if I didn’t leave it alone. I figured out later that what I really needed was closure. I don’t think we honor closure enough in our society. We are to ignore our feelings or move on and show that brave face. It’s my experience that when you have closure, you can more easily and truly move on. But, not everyone needs closure. It’s important to know that there is no time timetable for getting closure.
What physical clutter would you like to release and get closure?
In my work as a professional organizer and coach, I have seen clients hold onto mementos from relationships that didn’t work out. I have witnessed onto things a family member gave them that they hated.
What do you need to get closure on that would allow you to release clutter?
Focus on items you have held on for years, something you dislike or something that no longer represents who you are or who you want to be. What are you seeing as you look around? Do any of your items bring up feelings like guilt, sadness or anger? If you are feeling any not so great feelings, that is a good place to start. This happens more often than you realize.
How do you begin to get closure?
First, ask why you are holding onto something. Does the item make you happy or do you hold on because you wished things had turned out differently instead of actually how they did, such as a failed relationship? Are you holding on as an excuse to stay stuck and unresolved instead of moving forward? Are you avoiding loss and hoping to avoid the pain that comes with it? Are you afraid to let something go because you don’t know what the outcome will be or how you will feel? Or do you have guilt? Perhaps you weren’t kind to a relative who left you something and you feel you need to do penance.
Honor your need to grieve or express anger or feel guilt. Our emotions are still there, especially on an energetic level, if we ignore or stuff them. When I finally let go of a relationship that wasn’t right for me, I howled for 20 minutes. When I finished I was done. I knew in that moment I had received closure. I felt all the range of emotions that it didn’t work out. What I had been holding onto was gone. I no longer felt the need to hold on and released my fear of never finding anyone. After that I was able to let go of the last few physical items from the relationship.
What do you need to do to get closure? What physical clutter can you release? What do you need to express to move forward?
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