I know I’ve struggled on how to forgive and it’s something I’m constantly working on. How about you? Who do you need to forgive?  Are you able to forgive easily or do you hold onto grudges? Would you like to have peace of mind? Learn how to clear some spiritual clutter.

I know I can do better. The good news is that I am a lot better than I used to be, but I would like to spiral up and be able to forgive a lot more easily.

This can be a process.  It took me years to forgive someone who had harmed me as a child.  If you have been following along with the podcast, it took me about six months to forgive the woman I used to work with.


It isn’t easy, but it can be done.  I love this quote:

“Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. unforgiveness is like drinking poisonnot forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. … taking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

I encourage you to try and forgive one person this week. If this is really challenging for you, have it be a stranger someone who cut you off or cut the line.  If you feel you are kind of comfortable at forgiving, I challenge you to work on forgiving someone who challenges you.

How to forgive

There are different ways you can work on forgiving.

Get present. What they did to you is in the past.   What action can you take right now to move forward?

Get a larger perspective. Having a spiritual practice has helped me immensely. Some people are here to teach you and have certain parts to play in your life. Maybe you played the part for them in another life or another timeline. Maybe you have some karma to clear up. That may be weird for some of you, but see if it can help.

What can you learn? I believe we create our reality. What can not forgiving this person teach you? What can you better understand or know about yourself? What do you need to possibly forgive yourself for?

Have a spiritual practice. Reconnecting to spirit many times helps us see that most stuff is really not a big deal. And people can forgive the big stuff,  you can most likely forgive the small stuff. I remember seeing ages ago a woman on Oprah who was able to forgive a man who had killed her son. I couldn’t even imagine that at the time; now I have a better idea.

Breathe. Just breathe. When all else fails just breathe.

When all else fails…Photo by Fabian Moller

Remember, we are humans in a spiritual body.  Someone said to me “How would God see (insert someone’s name here/an unkind action)?” Well, of course, God or the Universe would love them.  Can I rise above to that bigger picture point of view?

Take responsibility. What part did you have to play? If I am honest, I wanted to leave my mentor probably about six months or so before I did.  I was angry with myself for not doing it; I have to own that. What can you own?

I saw this from Wayne Dyer somewhere.

Stop looking for occasions to be offended.

I love this.  He said to become a person who refuses to be offended. You get to choose whether or not you become offended.  Look to social media to see people who are easily offended. I have a friend that I am convinced looks daily.  Everyone who posts on her wall shares her narrow-minded views. She looks to start fights on others’ walls. And she doesn’t argue well and gets shut down pretty quickly.  Instead of dealing with her pain, she wants to feel anger at others.

It takes less energy to love and forgive than to hate and be angry.

Have gratitude. I really felt I had made a stride in forgiving my mentor.  And I had an unforgiving thought. I was able to find gratitude for her.  That was really able to help me. And so when I am stuck in forgiving someone I look for gratitude in how they help me.  When someone cuts me off to speed ahead of me, I say, well, they will be the chase car for the cop.

Consider surrounding someone with universal love!

Surround the person with pink light, with golden light. Blow them up in a rose. I feel it really helps me to do something energetic. Send unconditional love. What step can you take to offer love?

Also, my friend Matt suggested this. View them as a toddler.   I have shared about the neighbors and trash, which has really for the most part stopped.  I believe shifting my energy and focus played a part. Maybe not.  When he told me to view them as toddlers, that really was a good analogy to me. You wouldn’t get bent out of shape at a toddler. He likened it also as a way to have power. If you have to find power by not picking up trash, how can I feel anything but sorry for you? Maybe thinking of the person as a toddler will help you move forward.

Who do you need to forgive? What one step can you take to forgive? What can you do right now to forgive someone?

Take actions on today’s blog how to forgive:

  • Who do you need to forgive?
  • How can you connect to spirit or your religion to support you in the process?
  • What steps do you need to take to forgive someone?
  • Create a plan to forgive.
  • Forgive someone, easy or hard.
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