This is a short episode today, How to become self aware, that was inspired by the Reddit thread AITA? I think it’s a really fascinating online discussion. To me, the most interesting are where it’s most evenly split. I’ll admit, I posted once. I got some good feedback. It’s not for the faint of heart, though, because you do have some jerks on the AITA thread!

Where Are You Being a Jerk or Butthead?

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Transcript How to Become Self Aware

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Since I’m 50, I figure my thoughts have gone up from a penny to a nickel. Here’s my inspiration for today, what I’d like you to contemplate in this short episode. Hey, everyone, this is not going to be a really long episode. But I have been thinking about this for a while because I think it’s important to address. Again, we’re talking about social relationship clutter. So a little bit of social media, a little bit of our relationships, as we relate to each other. And there is something called Reddit. And I don’t know what the proper term for Reddit, it’s our E DD, it gets a listserv, a message board. And so there are all these topics that you can ask about posts, and then people will respond. And there are different threads that you can do. So there’s one called the initials or AI TA, am I the self censoring there? So I’m going to say am I the Butthead, or as we say, in our household with the cats, and my the bumbum. I was inspired because the leader of the people harassing us in Raleigh, very close to closing, as I record, this started harassing us because I called her out on a hypocrisy since her response was to go after me and get a bunch of people, not a bunch, a handful of people in setting having instead of having some personal reflection time, it’s a good reminder to look for our blind spots, and be honest, where we’re being a bum bum head, or Butthead, choose your word of choice. So Reddit has a thread called AI TA? Well, how a lot of it can be really funny. I mean, one of those things that I can read some of these and really crack up. I’ve really appreciated it because it has given me different first structure perspectives that some people post are kind of clowns. Like, perhaps they make it up, or they know they’re being a jerk. And they just want to share that maybe get some attention. And I feel a lot of posts are really sincere. And people want to know if they’re being a butthead. I talk all the time about awareness plus action equals change. So I think it’s great if you can post and share and am I being a butthead? Because you truly, honestly might not know what’s that great quote from my Angelo, you don’t know what you don’t know. And I believe when you know better, you can do better. So they actually do a top 10 I believe every year. And those are the ones that usually make you think now sometimes they have the ones that are just when people go off the rails and are really very funny. But the ones that are the most fascinating to me, are that are 5050. And what I love about this is people can post anonymously, last month, I believe it was or in July, when I was sharing things that I liked. I talked about that man who people would send them anonymously, and he’d pair it with a photo of things that they were ashamed of, or had regrets or whatever it was, or things that they just couldn’t share with anyone else. And I’ve talked before about how important it is to get something off our chest, to share our story. And so an anonymous form allows this and because it’s so huge, you get a lot of feedback. Again, they’re clowning around. Some people might not be able to hear the feedback. But some might, and some might have that aha moment and moment of awareness. So I love the fact that there is something out there that allows people to share this and get a perspective. And the posts that are 5050 because things aren’t always so clear cut right kind of like life. I used to see things as incredibly black or white. And life is gray. And it’s allowed me to get some good food for thought. So we’re gonna do our own little thread here. Take some time to contemplate where are you butthead in your life, at work at home with your partner, spouse, significant other friends, family, people, you work with people you work for people who work for you. Really take a moment to be aware of where you’re not being so nice

Here’s some of the times I’ve been a butthead taking my frustration out on my phenomenal husband because he’s closest to me and I know I can react and he’s not going to get upset with me or not maybe necessarily upset but it’s a safe place to do that right? I’ve been working really hard to be aware of that. But that’s I’ve been a butthead when I do that. That a very difficult year so it’s safe to take out my frustration, but that’s not healthy. So I’m becoming checking in. How are you feeling? What am I doing? Being really aware of my actions? I’m a butthead when I flip someone off in traffic. Now I’d become a lot better because I think Road Rage has just increased and gotten out of hand. One of the things I’m grateful for is that moving to a smaller town and I’m grateful I don’t I mean, I don’t know how I live that 10 years in LA and commuted so we have less traffic so that makes a little bit easier. I’m a butthead when I’m stingy with my love for others. Or if I get into that thinking of the rest supper Casa T or Supercross city, I’m stumbling over this today. I apologize when I think things aren’t even now I’m not talking about random people or someone you know, always have some people in your life that always want something from you. I’m talking about people that I’m closest with. Not those that are just trying to suck the life out of me. So when I’m stingy with my love, or if my forgiveness I’m a butthead to myself when I eat too much or don’t express my feelings. I’m a butthead when I don’t exercise. Don’t take care of myself. I’m a butthead. When I have those moments, when I just want to fold my arms and be cranky and just I’m not gonna look at that. I don’t want to do that. I’m gonna encourage you to spend some time on increasing your awareness in this area like where am I being a jerky? Make jerk fake? Now I want you to remember this is not about having a boundary or standing up for yourself because those are healthy things. This is about were in a way in an unhealthy way. Am I being a jerk? How can I be less of a jerk? How can I not be the butthead? Just spend some time contemplating that and becoming aware. I’ve given you some examples from my own life or haven’t always acted kindly or have been a jerk. But as I become aware of it, then I can stop doing it. Just spend some time contemplating where my the bumbum take actions from today’s podcast. Be aware of where you’re being a butthead. Stop being a butthead. On our next episode, we’re talking about revenge. Go out. Clear Your Clutter to create the life you choose deserve and desire. When you clear your clutter, you can share your gifts with the world. Sign up for our free newsletter at reawaken your brilliance calm. Even enjoy Clear Your Clutter inside now. Please rate review and share us

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