Here’s my little love story about how I met my husband.

I have to admit I haven’t been a fan of Valentine’s Day for most of my life. It just seemed like another commercialized holiday and an excuse to eat more chocolate. While eating chocolate isn’t really a bad thing, I still just wasn’t a fan. 

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In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I thought I would share with you a little love story of mine. Here’s the story of how I met the love of my life, my husband, Tony, and Joey, (his cat and now our cat) and now we have four! (We sadly lost Athena in November.)

We first met at a bowling MeetUp. Here where I live in the Raleigh, NC, USA area, Meetups are very popular.  I really didn’t want to go bowling that night because I was mad at my friend who was hosting the event. However, my intuition insisted that I go. Boy, am I glad I listened! I saw this cute guy in a red shirt leaning against the bowling alley. I thought, “Too bad he’s not with our group.”  It turns out he was waiting for his friends who were coming to the Meetup.

The four of us bowled that night and Tony kindly offered me some of his snacks. First good sign—he was willing to share his food!  We then went to a restaurant to grab a bite to eat. Tony was a little slow and another guy who was interested in me sat next to me. (Months without no interest and then two guys interested in the same night?? Perhaps that was related to increasing my confidence. I’ll discuss that in a future newsletter.)  We didn’t have much time to talk as he was covering a shift and had to get to work. But by the time I got home, there was an email asking me out. 

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We had our very first date the next day and he worked around my schedule of needing to watch the Pittsburgh Steelers game.  We had a romantic Italian dinner. I had a “rule” of no kissing on the first date. Luckily, I ignored it.

At that time, I wasn’t sure Tony would be my husband, but within two months we knew.  We talked about marriage while visiting my parents over Christmas. We picked out rings together and he surprised me by popping the question at our favorite Italian restaurant while my mother was visiting. As only my mother could, she asked Tony to recreate the proposal so she could film it! (Thankfully, she settled for some pictures!) I was off to do my live internet TV show and I shared the excitement that I had just gotten engaged.

Eleven months later to the day of our first date we were married.  The old adage is true, when you know, you know.

Something I learned from this whole experience of falling in love that has helped me to be a better life coach is that I’m glad I ignored my head and followed my heart and kissed Tony on the first date. I also decided to simply stay present as much as possible to see how it would all unfold. I’m super allergic to cats and wasn’t sure at the beginning if it would work as I’d never ask anyone to give up a pet (especially now as I’m a cat mom!). 

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My personal experience helps me when coaching clients to understand how fear can get in the way and how to stay present. Becoming present is your point of power to change.

How can you become more present? How can you overcome your fear?

I can share my story of how following my heart, despite my concerns, led me to an amazing husband. Loving my husband led to being trained by Joey on how to serve a cat.  Crazy, huh?  Now, I’m a nutty cat mom to four –Joey, Antonio, NiNi, and Gus and to Athena in heaven.

Whether you’re a swinging single, in a relationship, in a complicated relationship, partnered, engaged, or married, may you have a day filled with love and joy!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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