Learn How to Declutter Your Life: Forget That Stuff
Declutter Your Life: Remove What Isn’t Working!
What are you putting up with that isn’t good for you? Where have people crossed a boundary with you? How are you letting the little things get in the way of the more important stuff? How can forgetting that stuff help you declutter your life? Learn how to forget that stuff and declutter your life.
Take actions from today’s podcast.
- Discover where you are on autopilot when it comes to doing what others desire instead of what you desire and declutter your life.
- What stuff do you need to forget?
- Who do you need to let go and quit trying to please to declutter your life?
- Think about what you have learned from your experiences and write it down to declutter your life.
- Stop seeing yourself as a victim
- Say forget that stuff when you need to and follow through!
Certified life coach, author & award-winning professional life organizer Julie Coraccio shares steps and tips to support you in creating the life you choose, deserve and desire through decluttering your life, mindfulness and how to organize your life and how to declutter your life.
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TRANSCRIPT FORGET THAT STUFF.
Declutter your life.
Julie Coraccio 0:00
Dan clearing the clutter inside and out. We’re talking about forget that stuff. What are you putting up with that isn’t good for you? Where have people crossed a boundary with you? How are you letting the little things get in the way of the more important stuff? Learn how to forget that stuff in this month’s bonus episode as we continue our month focusing on love.
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Today’s episode was inspired by a women’s retreat that I did a few years ago. There’s going to be some irony here as I share this. I heard this a lot when working with my mentor, my women’s group. And I’m still kind of processing it. It’s a challenge for me. And the irony here is, I had to say, forget that stuff. And just as a side note, you’ve probably heard this phrase a little bit differently with an F swear word. That s swear word. I you know, I don’t swear on the podcast. I try not to swear. Sometimes I do and really, if I’m going to swear, forget that stuff in the swear or form. is I think the best, but I keep this, PG, g whatever, because I want to reach as many people as possible. I watched a great documentary with Tony Robbins who I’ve been reading some of his stuff lately, and it was really great, but boy does he swear. And my husband and I watched it and my husband was turned off and I said, Yeah, I kinda understand why he’s doing that because it’s kind of trying to jolt you and wake you up and snap you out of that autopilot. I don’t need to do that here. If that works for you, then just substitute that for forget that stuff. I wanted to point that out. So you know, really what I’m trying to say. Anyway, irony here is I learned this from my mentor, and at the retreat, and that was a revelation for me. Like, wow, I can really say forget that stuff. I’m no longer involved with the women’s group. I it was a great learning experience because I really had to step back and say, forget that stuff. I’m not hanging around, you know, I’m still processing it, it was very hard. It was very disappointing. My feelings were incredibly hurt. There were several things that happen. And after one woman in particular was just mean to me. And I’m like, this is a women’s group, we’re supposed to be lightworkers. We’re supposed to be supporting not only ourselves and each other, but our community and the planet. And I put up with a couple months of excluding me and letting me know I was excluded. And then in October, she crossed the line into cruelty, no other way to say it. And after a couple months, I finally shared with my husband and October was I did a retreat, there was a mini retreat. And then I didn’t go to class in November and I just dropped out. I’m not working with my mentor anymore. I really had to say forget that stuff. Now I’m the type of person. First of all, I paid for classes for six months, we had to prepay for six months this year. So I paid for two classes that I didn’t attend. And if I pay for something, I want to use it. The only exception might be the Planet Fitness, I pay for that. And I don’t use it every day, but I use it enough to justify the $99 a year. Anyway, there’s that which I have joke about, but I’m half serious about and if I commit to something and we’re supposed to commit for a year, then I want to stick by and I want to honor that commitment. One thing that I learned from Matt Andrews who channels Antara light language and I did a check that out last year sometime did a podcast with Matt and he’s really wonderful. And he was talking about commitment from a completely different perspective and obligation and that’s not where you want to be. You want to be in a good space. So anyway, long story short. I said forget that stuff. And walked away from it. And in the past, I would have been said, No, you’ve committed you, everyone else that and I’m thinking, why would I pay to get treated like crap, and then not feel supported. And as you can tell, I’m kind of still processing this, it was very painful. But the irony is not missed on me that that’s where I learned that and really learn embrace it, and had to walk away from that. So that’s really what the basis for this episode is. Again, I’ve been toying with this and writing it and sharing it for Gosh, probably over a year now. And then this really seemed like the right time because I’m really living forget that stuff right now my life. So here are some other examples of where I’ve had to say, forget that stuff, or where it’s been used in my life. So this class that I did in October, another little ironic moment, there’s another woman I’ve met the retreat and she’d unfriended me on Facebook, and I said why? You know, I’m really uncomfortable with that. And and I have to say I don’t go and check and see who follows me because that waste energy, but I had herb intuitively
go see if you’re still friends and we weren’t, I thought, well, I’m a little uncomfortable with that. And I don’t want to make anyone else in this retreat feel uncomfortable. And my mentor at the time was like, forget that stuff. And so I did, I thought it was more important for me to do the retreat. Then worrying about how this other woman felt. Where do you need to say, forget that stuff? Where do you need to release what others are telling or suggesting you do? How many times have we let others or our perceptions dictate what we will or will not do? It’s time to release it. Why would we be hesitant to say for Get that stuff. I’m walking away from a group I’ve been involved with for three and a half years a mentor I’ve worked with in that time. That’s not easy. I do have some mixed emotions about that. When we don’t walk away, we are seeking others approval. I’m a reformed people pleaser slash doormat. Not only is living this way exhausting, it’s suffocating. Consider writing down how you feel. Did anyone say anything to you to make you feel that way? Does being around a certain person make you feel not so great? What can you discover when you write down your feelings?
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autopilot. You know, I’m huge on this, especially if you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while, become aware and get off autopilot. This is a challenge, but it can be done. Quit going through the motions, or you will repeat what you haven’t learned. In the past I would have stuck with the women’s group. I wouldn’t have felt comfortable, but I would have felt I’m obligated to have to do this a good girl a good person who commit sticks with her commitment. become very aware of your thoughts. See the first episode from this month on positive self talk How can you approach people differently? Instead of automatically saying yes, every time Sue asks for something, so you’ll get back to her? Do you need to let go of any relationships? Instead of hanging around with people that aren’t healthy, become less available? Don’t see these as bad things. What can you learn from your experiences? I learned a lot from my mentor in the women’s group. What can you do differently? Listen to my intuition because it was saying leave for several months and I ignored it. So I created my reality. And had someone be so mean and cruel to me that I had no choice but not to go back. How can you have better boundaries and no one it is time to forget that stuff. be concerned with your opinion. You can’t change anyone else. You can only change how you respond. Remember, you can live your life from a place of love, still have boundaries, and be kind and respectful. Worry about you. Others reactions are based on their issues, challenges, beliefs, etc. Concentrate on how you respond and behave. Quit seeing yourself as a victim. It’s common for people who feel they’re being influenced by others to blame these people. It’s not their fault. It’s yours. Own that work on the relationship you have with yourself. I used to have a really awful boss in LA. And he was just horrible to me and I used to have a stomachache I didn’t want to go in Monday morning. And when I finally stood up to him, the energy shifted and it just change. And what I’ve learned and believe is as you change and shift, either others will rise up with you and continue on your journey on the spiral or they’ll go away. I’d worked on myself, I’d stood up to him again, in a professional way because this was work. I couldn’t afford to lose my job. And True story. Within a week or two might have been a month I don’t remember. And he left he found another job. I was cracking up because when he announced he was leaving, I emailed my best friend Cody. And Cody was like, Oh my gosh, do you remember you know, you did this and it’s when you stood up to him or whatever you shifted because I was going to class at the time and keeping Kati in the loop. So I stood up pattern boundary, and he ended up going away. So get out of that feeling of being a victim. Dig deeper. Why do you want to please people and do what others want? What has happened to shake your hand havior when you take steps, the other person will change or go away. Remember, we create our reality. Try and not waste your energy stewing on the bad actions of others. Again, I’m struggling with this. Yesterday, I scream, felt really bad for cats and yelled at all these women, but I’d kind of been doing the spiritual override and not acknowledging all my anger and pain. And after I record these episodes, today, I’m going to and husband goes to work. I think I’m going to do some pounding in the bedroom, to make sure that you’re acknowledging this feeling. I felt really good yesterday after screaming. But I bring it back to me, I created again, I’m human, having a spiritual experience. So I honor where I am, and own that I created it. If I’m really honest, I’ve been wanting to stop. I’ve been taking all these classes seeing my mentor. It was a financial drain. It was really stressful and I wasn’t achieving what my goal was. And I didn’t listen and I didn’t leave. Bless them or do what I do and think of something pleasant when they pop into your mind. Again, as long as you’re not doing the spiritual override, make sure you’re getting those stuck emotions moving up and out.
Declutter Your Life
If you continue to see yourself as a victim, you’ll just create more situations that proved you what you believe is true. You cannot please everyone. Trust me. I can’t do this in my personal life, with my business or with this podcast. For some the podcast is too short for others. It’s too long. My sounds not good. Don’t like my voice. I don’t worry about it. What I do will speak to you or it won’t sound good. I do my thing and don’t worry about it. Yes, I’m always open to constructive criticism, but I Otherwise let it go. I can’t be everything to everyone. When you catch yourself starting to try and Please someone say, forget that stuff. You can do it in swear words, or in your Oprah boys forget that stuff. Or how Wonder Woman would do it our Ninja Warrior. Have fun with it. Own it. Forget that stuff. episodes that may support you and forgetting that stuff. January 2017 155, how to determine your priorities. October 2017 What’s your baggage? October bonus 2017 physician heal thyself August 2017 bonus are you doing the spiritual override episode one 181 may of 2017 a positive mindset interview. Episode 175 the art of allowing April 2017 Episode 165 honoring your truth, February 2017. Episode 164 spectacular self care, February 2017. Episode 159 destroying your doubt, January 2017. Episode 158 listening to your intuition January 2017. And finally September bonus from 2017 how to stop being a victim? I have to tell you these episodes that I have suggested contain some of my favorite take actions from today’s podcast. Discover where you are on autopilot when it comes to doing what others desire instead of what you desire. What stuff do you need to forget? Who do you need to let go and quit trying to please think about what you’ve learned from your experiences and write it down. stop seeing yourself as a victim. Say forget that stuff when you need to, and follow through and do it. On our next episode, we’re talking about social media. Go out clear the clutter to create the life you choose, deserve and desire. Are you ready to learn live a more joyful and fulfilling life. Sign up for our newsletter at reawaken your brilliance calm and receive a free copy of 10 steps to clearing the clutter inside and out. If you enjoyed today’s episode, I would love it if you would rate and review the show because it really helps us in the search ranking. See you next Tuesday at one o’clock. Remember, when you clear your clutter, you can create the life you desire.
Declutter your life.
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