Decluttering Kids: Make it Fun & Easy

Decluttering kids: your kids can learn these skills! Do your children lack the skills to declutter and get organized? Do you pick up after your kids 24/7? How can you work with your kids and have a harmonious household? Learn how to work with your children and teach them life long skills of decluttering and organizing.

Take actions from today’s podcast on Decluttering Kids:

  • Decide what spaces you want children to help declutter and organize
  • Involve kids in all steps
  • Motivate the young ones
  • Teach children how to let go
  • Work with kids so they can learn how to make decisions
  • Discuss the benefits of being organized and clearing clutter
  • Understand the costs of disorganization and clutter
  • Break tasks down into manageable and age appropriate chores
  • Post session reward everyone in a healthy way.

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Decluttering Kids Transcript

Julie Coraccio 0:01
Today on clear your clutter inside now, we’re talking about working with kids when the cluttering and getting organized. Do you worry that your kids lack the skills to declutter and get organized? Are you tired of picking up all your children’s stuff? 24? Seven. How can you work with your children and have a harmonious household? Learn how to work with your children and teach them lifelong skills of decluttering and organizing as we begin our month focusing on teamwork. Do you control your clutter? Or does your clutter control you? unclear your clutter inside and out. We’ll teach you awareness as well as action steps to create change in your life.

Come on. Let’s get started.

I did something A little bit different this month. Well, first, I hope everyone had a great break. I hope that you were able to access the archives. I know we didn’t have live shows for six weeks, or recorded because they aren’t technically live. But hopefully that was helpful to you or if you took a break, even better, it’s all good. As long as you were honoring yourself and listening to your intuition. I think that’s really great. I am ready for summer to be over. July is usually the hottest year in North Carolina. still being in August though it’s too hot for me. So I did think a little bit differently this month. While most of us were at home, back in March in April. And just again, a huge shout out to health care workers, first responders, janitors, all of y’all that made a huge difference grocery store workers, clerks, everyone that allowed many of us to stay at home. I offered free live coaching for a couple months on Facebook and so I did a special episode in April May In June, that I include in the podcast, but this month, they all kind of came together. And the only thing I did is I edit out any pauses or if I repeated Hey, next week come and see the coaching. And, you know, in one that I did, I didn’t realize the chat was on. And all these questions had forwarded. And I’m like, hey, if anyone has a question, so all that was edited out. And the only thing I did was I did take action at the end, do an intro, just to kind of tie it together the theme of the podcasts, and I feel really, like let’s take action. And I didn’t do those with the bonus episodes and April, May and June. But now that we’re kind of back to the format, that’s what I did. So all these in my mind kind of gel together into what I’m calling teamwork. For many of you, it’s back to school time. And I thought talking about working together would be really great. I also had a great q&a session when people ask questions I was asked questions I didn’t ever been asked before. So that was really wonderful. To do that it kept me on my feet. It really helped me mentally. And you’ll notice in these episodes, I definitely go more on a tangent mode, I try to what I do the podcast have my little points. And at the beginning, I did it similar to podcasts, I wrote down even more brief points. So I do a little tan thing a little more often. But hopefully you can hang with that because sometimes it’s really good stuff. When I go off in different directions, and you know, as always, I say a little prayer, I say, a little moment, have a moment and say, just whatever people need to hear, please allow that to come through me. So hopefully, you will be able to gain through that even when I meander a little bit. working as a team not only supports us in clearing physical clutter, but it also helps with mental clutter. how exhausting is it when stuff doesn’t get done, or you’re really far apart? emotional clutter, right when it’s emotionally draining to fight or ask your kids to continually To get stuff done, can also create spiritual clutter when their home has a lot of tension and that can sometimes escalate into other challenges. Energetic clutter happens when you have a lot of physical clutter or negative feelings when they’re more present than not. You can create health clutter from all the stress of not working together, as well as having relationship clutter when you can’t get on the same page. If you have a lot of stuff you’re not using, you’re creating financial clutter when you could be bringing in money. It’s just a few examples of the broader clutter it’s creating when we can’t come together. We don’t work as a team. For most of us, we live with someone whether spouse, a partner or roommate, and we have to negotiate clutter and disorganization. So that’s why I wanted to focus on teamwork. Even if you live alone. Hopefully you’ll take away some team building skills for life work and play. Because most of us aren’t in complete isolation. And I’m betting even the monks might have a challenge or two with living together. Maybe not kids like me, but you have nieces and nephews or God child or child that you mentor, and you might want to share these skills with them. Enjoy.

So first of all, it’s important,

my great new t shirt, remind you, here comes the sun. Life is good. So remember, we’re in the storm now. But eventually the sunshine has to come out again. So the beauty of the corona files I like to share things that are positive and I think that are groovy. Again, if you were focusing all about the virus, try to find the good and focus on those stories like how many people have recovered.

So someone I’m not

a very smart person when it comes to solving complex problems. I don’t have that kind of brain. But I read where and I don’t remember where it was. I’m thinking it’s catching on, that people in the community have started raising money to feed health. care workers. And what’s so awesome about this is they’re supporting local restaurants. As you know, some have shuttered, some have closed, but the restaurant industry has been severely impacted. And so what these people are doing is doing a rotating small business will pay you they raise a fund will pay you please go feed the healthcare workers. I love solutions like that we have the ability to solve everything if we choose to. So that’s just a good news I wanted to share. Another thing to remind you about and again, this is the third episode I’m doing the first one was finding opportunity, finding what can be good in a really terrible situation with all this and again, I don’t discount anyone who’s really struggling. A lot of drama in the past 48 hours unfortunately with our Hoa, and I really try to stay above the fray and if you follow my podcast clear your clutter inside now. We were denied solar panels. We are going to be filing a suit in small claims court against the HOA board for violating a couple of things. So anyway, this very disturbing how a fellow neighbor was treated and you know, I was just maligned on next door you gotta love next door. Right. But my point with all of this is in the past 48 hours, there have been some things that are only going to strengthen our court case. Now we’ve given them over 60 days to respond, they’ve chosen not to respond to our request to be reimbursed because they required all these things to approve our solar panels. And it’s our belief that they were never going to approve them and just made us jump through hoops anyway. We’re out some money. And so that’s why we’re assumed said we’d like to be reimbursed for that they’ve ignored us we said even before the first COVID-19 case in North Carolina was And so anyway, we will take them to small claims court when they open but two pretty significant violations, and they’ll have documentation now happen. And so if we had already filed the suit or it happened and you know, in, will it make or break the case? I don’t know. But it really goes towards, I think really showing how we were treated. So that goes back to divine timing, and what can you view as divine timing? During this very stressful period? Every day, I’m trying to feel where can I find the gratitude? What’s good about this? And the older I get, the more relaxed I trust in divine timing. So maybe something you might have, perhaps you were just about to start an awesome job. And then this hit and I said, Sorry, we can’t hire you. Maybe you’ll get rehired after all this, or maybe some other amazing opportunity will happen. So just keep the faith folks do what you can and know that I’m cheering you on. Talk about kids and decluttering and organizing today

when I’m hired to work with a family Well, if the parents are both organized, they don’t need me. And if the parents or the family is in a bunch of clutter, they don’t want me. So typically when I work with a family, there’s maybe one person that’s more on the clutter side and one person is more on the organized side, right timing, finding that sweet spot where it works for everyone. So I’m going to do things a little differently today. Someone had requested this and they want to kind of nuts and bolts and age appropriate suggestions. But I, you know how I work if you’ve listened to me, I’m about looking at things holistically. And so I want to approach this from a different way. If you’re working with your kids, and now’s a great time, if they aren’t in school as much. Have them work on decluttering and getting organized. I’m sure most parents out there raising their hand and like could your kid’s room, use a good declutter organization? involve your children. I think this is so important. Even if they’re young kids, you can still like a six or seven year old Want to involve you get their opinion, I think that that’s really important. And a good example I’ll use is memory boxes if you keep memories of your kids is letting them decide, because you might something that looks insignificant to you might be significant to your child. And it’s important for what’s important for them to keep. And it’s also important to involve them to help them make decisions. Because I feel a lot of people I’ve worked with if they had some support as a child on how do I declutter, how do I get organized, they wouldn’t be holding on to so much stuff, they would have learned those skills as a child, which will help them in adulthood, I think the soft skills of life. I was running the school system. I’ve include how to balance a checkbook. I’d include how to successfully debate someone and even if you have different opinions, how to successfully navigate that I think there are a lot of soft skills that are missing. Encourage you involve your children. So to be any say, Hey, we are going to declutter our rooms, or we’re going to declutter and organize a family room or, hey, family project time for the garage with a nice spring day. So involve your children. I mean, first of all, kids are awesome. They have great ideas that you might not have thought of, right? Because they’re coming from that different perspective. Like, they might say,

Hey, Mom and Dad,

how can can we hang my bike? So it’s really easy for me to take off and I don’t have to stretch and maybe hurt myself. So good stuff like that. When you’re involved and have a conversation, just like if they’re adults, kids are individuals. I worked with a family and the seven year old was like, good to go. He could let go of clutter. He was like, yeah, let it go. I’m done was really great. But the 15 year old, was more challenged. And you might think, well, the older child would understand more and not at all because they’re different personality. So it’s the same thing with adults. You have to work with them and find out their challenges. So have the conversation. The first thing I’m gonna suggest is, what are the benefits? If we clear our clutter, we get to help someone else. We get to come into a room that feels really good instead of feeling maybe not so good. I had it was working with a family once. And the child had gotten really angry at the mother because she hadn’t been able to get school pictures. So you know, your school picture forms and you fill them out and bring him out. Well, she didn’t get her picture that day. And you know, as a young kid, I can understand why that would be traumatic. But then when we were decluttering, the arts and crafts room, we found the check. We found everything that the mother had done, the child had just lost it or misplaced it and all the clutter. And so that was a really wonderful moment for the child because they were able to connect that aha Oh free didn’t have so much clutter. If I was organized and maybe I would have gotten my school pictures again, there wasn’t any blame or shame because that’s doesn’t help anyone. But she was able to see Ah, there’s a benefit when I clear clutter and get organized. So talk to your kids about that. What are the benefits that they would see? What will motivate them? You know, maybe it is you offer more screentime you offer more part time you offer more staying out an hour later in summertime. What can motivate your child to want to declutter and get organized again and bring that back to the benefits? What are the benefits

of decluttering? What are they going to gain?

overwhelmed the stuff can’t find what you need when you need it. Tired of wasting time and energy maintaining your mess. longing for peace of mind. Get control Your clutter, your clutter doesn’t control you. reclaim time, money, sanity and resources, physical clutter 365 journal prompts supports you in clearing your physical clutter. free gift purchase to support you even more in your journey to declutter your life. What will motivate them? You know, maybe it is you offer more screen time. You offer more Park time you offer more staying out an hour later in summertime. What can motivate your child to want to declutter and get organized again and bring that back to the benefits? What are the benefits of decluttering? What are they going to gain? Now kids are smart, they know what’s going on and they can see the benefits of everything. So I encourage you Check in with them and see what’s motivating them and the benefits. I also encourage you to be in the room and ask them to close their eyes and cents, what are they feeling? You know, there’s definitely a feeling of a really cluttered or disorganized place. And I believe whatever is going on on the inside is reflected on the outside. You know, they have linked depression to cause clutter and clutter can cause depression. So there’s that definite cycle. It can be found. If you have a lot of clutter, you might not have compliance with your meds. It is adding stress to you most likely, they’re all those things going on. So I encourage you to close your eyes, how does it feel? And then do it? At the end? When you’ve decluttered and organized? How did that feel? Get your child articulate that? And when they know that when they feel better and you know and how do you feel? Do you feel like you can think better? How do you feel physically? Do you feel happier in a clean room soon Same emotional clutter, ask those questions and encourage them to really understand how it makes a difference. Another thing that’s really good for this is, you know, I mentioned a moment ago, benefits and what they’re gaining. But what is it costing them? I use the example the child who didn’t get her school pictures. Maybe as you’re declaring and organizing can bring up an example, hey, do you remember when this happened? And again, just in a kind way to show them this why it’s good, because then it doesn’t cost you anything.

Kids are smart. They will get it,

they will understand, but haven’t be aware of that. Because again, you’re teaching them a skill and you’re teaching them a skill to how to let go. It’s not a you know, we as a culture, or culture right now of consumerism. There’s definitely been this movement to simplify. Less is more, but right now is that America, let me just Talk about the United States feel that there’s this definite consumerism emphasis. We’ve been told to buy, buy, buy, we have to keep the economy going, buy, buy, buy. And as I mentioned, there is a movement to get away from that we can understand how kids get caught up in that. But these are opportunity to say, Well, you know, we don’t always need the latest and greatest game. What is it that we could do instead of being on electronics? Can we play a board game as a family? Can we take a walk in nature or opportunities here to focus less on the having and more on the being? So it’s a good practice? How did you let go, it’s not always easy. I know I am most challenge. We have done, downsized another round. We are now down to the laundry room, part of the laundry room, our master bath bedroom and closet for the year. So we’re doing pretty well trying to utilize this time, as much as I can out of everything we’ve done, and everything. That’s less The hardest for me is going to be the bookcase. Because sometimes it’s hard to let go books and I’m really, my goal is to keep it to one bookcase I don’t want and it’s hard because especially just starting an online class on plants and herbs and learning how to work with them. And I just had the order a couple books and I’m excited. That’s like, oh, man, you have to really go through the books. And if you understand how to let go, I mean, talk about how it helps your mental clutter. What are you afraid of? One of my big things that I say a lot is trust. You get what you need, when you need it. And if you’re able to get my mind set up, if I let that go, then whenever I need to appear, it’s kind of getting back to divine timing, I’m going to trust that things that are meant to happen, will come in as they can. So think about how you can teach your child to let go. And again, have a conversation around this. I think it’s really important to get the child’s perspective. And what’s important to them and see what they have to say. Also, another great skill to practice during this time is decision making. How do we make a decision to let go? How do we get organized? How do we do this? You know, they used to call me in college, they used to call me indecisive one. I never wanted to make a decision. And for me personally, I didn’t want to make a decision because I was afraid. I was afraid to make the wrong decision, or I was afraid that I would anger someone and I have to say, thankfully, at 50 a lot of that has has gone away. You know, I was someone called me a groupie this morning, on next door, and which is all good. I mean, but I don’t care. And so what we’re talking about being gas lit or standing up for ourselves and people in the community are trying to shame and blame us 30 it probably would have back down and it’s frustrating. Thank goodness I have my Husband, thank goodness, I have the cats for support. Thank goodness, I have friends who support me, because it’s it’s not easy. But there is something that I know there’s a lot more support behind the scenes for us then is a pair.

But I made a decision.

Because of my past I made a decision. You know, what if I upset someone? Oh, well, and that’s been a lifelong process for me. So I encourage you, with your kids, how can they learn to make a decision? They can make a decision? Absolutely, they can do it. And those are good skills to have and let them ask questions. Do they have a concern they might upset you or hurt you or feel like they’ve offended you? That might be the case and someone learn how to be decisive and take action. And when you’re talking about clutter, you know, ask questions. How often do you use this? Do you need this? Do we have another one of this that we can let go and if you’re doing You’re clearing your clutter and you’re sorting, then you’re editing, then you’ll have all that so they can see, oh, I have 20 stuffed animals, maybe I can let go five. And remember, it’s a process for kids, they might not be able to pick mate at the beginning, maybe be able to let go of one or two toys. But if you do this on a regular basis, they will build their clutter busting muscles, they will build their decision making muscles, and they’ll be able to let go. So that’s another skill. How do you let go? How do you make decisions and think that that’s something really important and I also spend this whole process to a positive you know, people decluttering Oh, organizing, not everyone, but a lot of people do and you know, it can be boring, it can stink, so you’re going to want to make this process fun for them. Maybe as a warm up y’all dance as a family. afterwards. Maybe you got ice cream or a walk in the park or have family game night. Have a reward at the end. Make the purchase. Fun, have music, make sure that there’s water so everyone stays hydrated if you need to have some snacks, and keep focused now a couple things to consider. Most kids aren’t going to be able to focus. Like when I do a job, I try to do it in four hours. If someone’s elderly, I do it in two hours, sometimes three hours. I’m pretty spent after four hours and I think it’s too long for kids. So I’m gonna encourage you can you do it for maybe two hours, maybe one hour, I think that that’s really important. So have a time plan on spending less time on and again, you know, you put an hour on Saturday, you put an hour on Sunday, that’s two hours of work done. You can also consider you can have for instance the kids each to their bedroom and you go around and support them or maybe say okay, as a family. Let’s all help each other and see if we can Blam get one of the kids rooms done or the living room done. Get involved make it a family affair, and remember That you are a team. There’s no I even if you’ve had challenges in the past, let them go. Completely let them go start in the present moment say, Okay, this might have happened in the past, but we begin new right now in this moment. We don’t shame anyone. We don’t blame anyone. We are moving forward as a family, we are our best support system. And let’s keep up with that. You want to do less time, you have to potentially take more breaks depending on the age of the kids. I think that that’s really important. So plan for breaks. Again, if you make this an unstressed situation, you make it as joyful as possible, you’re going to be able to get it done probably in less time.

I’d also suggest

coming up with some steps for kids. So this is where you say, Okay, I’m the parent. I’m going to have some suggestions here. Okay, so like the first thing we’re going to do is, we’re going to pick up all our clothes all around our room, and if we need Let’s put the dirty clothes in the hamper. If it’s clean, let’s hang it up so we can see all these clothes we have if we have 10 pairs of jeans, maybe we only need bought half steps for the kids come, okay, let’s we’ve got all the stuffed animals together. What can we read through what can we let go? make it as easy as for your kids as possible and make those manageable steps and then again, depending on your child’s personality, depending on your child’s age, they you’ll know navigate that maybe the one that has it easy to let go needs less of a conversation and less of prodding, whereas the one that’s more challenge, have more of a discussion. I think that’s really important. Another thing that can help and this kind of ties back to motivation is can you save your kid okay when we’re done. We are going to donate all our

stuffed animals to

the children’s home. Because these kids don’t have a lot, they don’t get everything. And so how can we make an improvement? How can we make someone else’s life better by letting go no longer serves us now I just I want to add an important note, I have a friend who’s a works with hoarders out in California. And she shared with me I didn’t realize I didn’t do this when I lived in California. You are now and I don’t know how it works. You’d have to research that but you were charged landfill fees if when you are in California to dump things and so you don’t want to let go. Or you don’t want to donate

things that are just in such horrible

condition that you are going to force a nonprofit or you are going to provide more work for someone when you’re decluttering. My rule of thumb for you would be to say if you wouldn’t give it to a family member if you wouldn’t give it to a friend. If you wouldn’t give it to a neighbor. Then that’s something thing that

you need to

think about, because if you wouldn’t give it to them, why would you give it to a charity? I mean, I would think as a child, it would be kind of a bummed out feeling to get something that was torn and stained and just way beyond repair. The other thing is, don’t give a puzzle if you’re missing five pieces. Think about that. Again, you don’t want think about it from a child or wherever you donate. Or maybe you donate your bedding and your towels, you’re going as a family to do things until you donate those to an animal shelter that can use them. And so have that plan on hand because you know, right as soon as you’re done, let’s go and run it makes them so happy the animal shelter that they have blankets for the the cats and dogs that come in the bunny rabbits and that’s going to make the child feel really good. And again, get them involved with charity, what’s important to them, what do they want to donate to. So those are just a couple tips during this time, how can we stay positive? How can we see the opportunities? How can we be grateful? There’s a lot of good out there and I definitely encourage you to seek it. Remember, take action from today’s podcast. Decide which spaces you want children to help declutter and organize.

Involve kids in all steps.

motivate your children.

Teach Kids how to let go.

Work with the young ones so they can learn how to make decisions. discuss the benefits of being organized and clearing clutter. help them understand the cost of disorganization and clutter. Break tasks down into manage little steps and age appropriate charge. Post session reward everyone in a healthy way. On our next episode, we’re answering your questions go out, clear your clutter to create the life you choose deserve and desire. When you clear your clutter, you can share your gifts with the world. Sign up for our free newsletter at reawaken your brilliance calm. If you’ve enjoyed clear your clutter inside now, please rate review and share us

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