Boundaries: Learning How to Say No To Stop Clutter Part 2
In last week’s blog on boundaries and saying no, I shared about how not being able to say no can create clutter in your life as well as why you might not be able to say no. Check it out here.
How to Set Boundaries & Say No
This is much easier said than done for sure. I still struggle with this.
Use the word NO. Don’t dance around.
Be brief—you do not need to explain why you are saying no. I used to do this all the time and still occasionally do.
I am not able to commit to that right now.
More Ways to Say No
I really appreciate/am honored you asked me, but I can’t do it.
I understand you really need my help, but I am not able to say yes to that.
I have to say no for now, but I will let you know if something changes.
And the best one I saw on social media the other day. No, I am sorry I have to go walk my pet unicorn.
If you do want to share, be honest about why. If you lie you will probably get caught—especially with social media these days!
More Options for Saying No
There are some people who won’t take no for an answer, so be prepared that you might have to do it a few times. I would really think hard about someone who doesn’t honor your request the first time.
Enlist a friend if you need to. I needed to say no to someone once over the phone—it was a babysitting job—and I made my friend hold my hand.
Practice in the mirror. Write out what you are going to say, even if it No, I am not able to.
Don’t apologize—it is your right to say no. I used to start so many sentences with I am sorry because of the guilt I felt. You are allowed to choose what you would like to do and whom you would like to help.
My Most Important Advice for Saying No
If people in your life don’t accept it when you say no, maybe they shouldn’t be in your life. Two weeks before I was leaving for my honeymoon to Italy my “friend” asked me to find her some people to work a show in Raleigh. She was from out of town and I worked for them the year I stated my business. I said I did not have time before I left. They never contacted me again after that—I said I would be happy to work. No response, nothing. So it became apparent, I was only a friend when I did something it wasn’t okay for me to say no. I am happy to say the “friendship” faded away and I am grateful to learn where I stood when I said no.
Where do you struggle to say no?
I am going to encourage you to come up with a plan or enlist someone’s support. Do not worry if you struggle with this a lot. I used to and with practice I am a lot better than I used to be. I also have my husband and close friends for back up, so seek out those friends that would be supportive. Ask people who you admire how they say no.
Who do you need to say no to? How will you say no this week? Who can support you as you make good boundaries?
Practice saying no this week as a way to release clutter to create the life you choose, deserve & desire.
DIY Options to Clear Clutter
Purchase Julie’s books on how to clear clutter from your life: https://www.amazon.com/Julie-Coraccio/e/B07JGGL7ZL/ref=ntt_dp_epwbk_0
Subscribe to Clear Your Clutter Inside & Out Podcast https://reawakenyourbrilliance.com/resources-concierge-services/podcasts/self-help-podcast/
Check out more of my decluttering tips and how to get organized on my YouTube channel. https://www.youtube.com/user/SeibertRadio?feature=watch