Please read the first part of this blog that came out on September 20th.
The best wedding gifts are the gifts that don’t create clutter for newlyweds. Make sure you know the couple and understand what they like and need.
She’s crafty She’s crafty
In the funny meme I read on Facebook they detailed gifts people get and no one really desires. One was homemade craft items. DISCLOSURE: I usually make things like handmade soaps, essential oils and soups for clients as gifts. Since I am supporting them in clearing clutter, it doesn’t sit right with me to purchase something they won’t use.
Having said that, we are focusing on wedding gifts today. We only received one craft item. It was apparent that it didn’t take a lot of time to make, was nothing like the décor in our home and frankly, wasn’t that imaginative. I share this because a few months ago I threw it away. I couldn’t regift it nor could I recycle it, which is what I would have tried to do. If you have listened to my podcast, or read my blog for a while, I talk a lot about energy and intent. If I had felt love behind the gift or they had really put a lot of thought and care behind it, we might have felt differently. I have artwork of my nieces and nephew on the fridge because they made it for me. They put love into it.
I suggest thinking very carefully about crafting an item. If you do, make sure it is something they need or will use, have asked for and will match their home. Anything done from a place of love will be treasured and appreciated.
What goes around comes around
I know this will get me in trouble with Miss Manners but I am a fan of regifting. And I actually did get in trouble here in the south when I talked about regifting in a presentation I did at a country club. One woman was not amused.
We received a religious gift from a friend who knows we are not religious. We regifted to my BIL and his wife who are very religious and appreciated the gift. It is all good in my book. Why would I want to keep something around gathering dust when it brings someone else joy? If you struggle with letting go of a wedding gift, ask yourself this question. Clearing clutter allows you to bring in more of what you desire.
I cannot imagine a wedding gift that would be really awful, but if you think it is and don’t want to regift, give to charity. There are so many in need.
If you are concerned about the money, you can always give the gift of time: to housesit, pet sit, baby sit. Or the gift of sweat: helping someone plant a garden or paint a room. I read about a nightmare bride, posted on reddit I believed, who called out someone who only gave a $50 gift. She told her friend she should have given something worth $200 cause that tis what I cost per couple or person. Tacky. You don’t want to be friends with someone.
Have an honest conversation saying that money is tight and you would love to give them a gift of time. Most normal people, appreciate this. The ones that don’t, maybe you need to rethink your friendship and /or going to the wedding.
For the happy couple!
Alternatives to wedding gifts. You can ask for money for a honeymoon or for a big-ticket item like a home or landscaping. I know Ms. Manners is cringing somewhere. I am not a fan of this personally, but to each his own.
Maybe someone could rent a cool car for you to leave your wedding from. You could ask for an experience such as a hot air balloon ride to enjoy together or a cooking class. Maybe art is your thing and you would love a painting of your pooch or drawing of your cat. Personalized stationary would also be great for all the thank you notes they will be writing!
If you are good to go, why not consider giving back? You could give to your favorite charity. Check out https://home.justgiving.com
Attempt to stop the clutter before it starts and register for what you really desire.
- The Honey Fund & The Honeymoon Honeymoon registries
- https://www.zola.com/ Cross-company registries that has a huge range of options
- https://www.travelersjoy.com/ for the travelers of the group
- https://www.ugallery.com/ for the articistic couple.
- Seven Hopes United – specializes in marketing stylish, handmade, fair trade and eco-friendly gifts from around the globe. Your purchase ensures our artisans are paid a living wage for their work, working conditions are safe, and no children are exploited.”
Knack Registry – You can register for items, experiences and even services.
Take aways from both blogs on best wedding gifts:
- Always always have gratitude for what you are given. People took the time to shop for and purchase a gift for you. Don’t be the ungrateful couple that people post about on social media;
- Most likely the happy couple will have registered. People register for items that they desire. When you go off the range, you might pick something that they don’t want, need or even like
- Think outside the box when asking for gifts: experiences, art, personalized stationary. You are only limited by your mind!
Go out clear the clutter to create the life you choose, deserve and desire!
What other gift alternatives can you give to the happy couple? How can you be smart if you’re going to make a gift?
DIY Options to Clear Clutter
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